It’s good to have friends and it’s good to have sane supportive friends even better. In alcoholics anonymous they say ‘keep sober company’. Our mothers’ told us (or perhaps not) not to keep bad company or we would get in trouble. There is truth in these things
Did you ever go into someones house and there was a barking dog and unruly children with the parent/s shouting endlessly to keep order? How did you feel? Anxious perhaps?
The same thing happens to us when we hang around with people who cannot manage their emotional life’s. It tends to rub off on us and we on them. It is sometimes difficult to find stable and calm friends, especially when we are used to chaos and noise. Many recovering people of all types tend to think that silence is an angry and disapproving atmosphere. This is what we have been used to. With less erratic people though silence or thereabouts is more refreshing. I try my best to keep sane and stable company and leave those alone who lurch from one crisis to the next. This is not disparaging about them. I can be of no use when I too am running around like a headless chicken. Many thanks.