We always need to remember that we can be with other people what we cannot be alone. Pain drives us into a corner where we think that we need to protect ourselves at all costs. In protecting ourselves we block out the world and then end up fighting with it in one way or another.
Sometimes this emotional/spiritual closing down seems sudden and catastrophic, but more ofeten than not it happens over a long period. Our reasons to resist this ‘shut down’ are good but we are worn down in the end.
Any attempts we make to restore ourselves or start again must always be tempered by these questions: Can I do this alone and where do I turn for help? This is the beginning of freedom.