Keeping good company

It’s good to have friends and it’s good to have sane supportive friends even better. In alcoholics anonymous they say ‘keep sober company’. Our mothers’ told us (or perhaps not) not to keep bad company or we would get in trouble. There is truth in these things

Did you ever go into someones house and there was a barking dog and unruly children with the parent/s shouting endlessly to keep order? How did you feel? Anxious perhaps?

The same thing happens to us when we hang around with people who cannot manage their emotional life’s. It tends to rub off on us and we on them. It is sometimes difficult to find stable and calm friends, especially when we are used to chaos and noise. Many recovering people of all types tend to think that silence is an angry and disapproving atmosphere. This is what we have been used to. With less erratic people though silence or thereabouts is more refreshing. I try my best to keep sane and stable company and leave those alone who lurch from one crisis to the next. This is not disparaging about them. I can be of no use when I too am running around like a headless chicken.  Many thanks.

Discipline

In order to recover from anxiety disorder I have found that I needed to be disciplined. Not so much with trying to order everything in my life but with following a few things on a daily basis.

The world of the angst ridden is on the surface quite chaotic. But a closer look shows that there are quite deliberate patterns tirelessly repeating themselves day in and day out.

Thus the children of the ‘panic’ as we might be called, are half way there when it comes to discipline. Discipline is just to follow a certain way or path. Hence the word (probably where it comes from anyway) disciple! We panicky types need routine and discipline – however boring it might be – because productive routines bring safety and safety in turn gives us time to reflect. Our thoughts are no longer rushing around unable to be caught and put in a sentence. When we are bored enough we know it will be time to move on.

Try this discipline for a few days or weeks: when you wake up think about what you’d like to get done today. Speak out loud to the universe, spirit or God and ask for what you need to do these things. In doing what you have laid down, do not overlook opportunities in which to give something away. Give it freely, be it time, your ear, some cash (if you are able) and see what benefits enrich you as time goes by. This is a beginning. Try it and see. We will be slaves no more – we need to be free from the bondage of self – this is usually wrapped up in helping others.